When You Have Tried Everything

What do you do?

Your young student is just not getting it. With at least one subject, you have reached the point of thinking and saying things like:

“In spelling we have tried everything! We sign the words. We write the words. We say them out loud. He can spell the words at home, but he cannot spell them at school.” For both you and your student: FRUSTRATION!!!

1st – Remember the number one thing – you, as the parent, are the most important factor in this child’s life. Not the spelling. Not the math. Not the skill for any academics. You.

2nd – Admit to yourself that learning is not, as Western educational theory held for years, a linear process. One does not have to learn A and B in order to do D. I think of learning as connecting the dots in 3D. A person can learn task D, E and F, or even M, before learning  A, B and C. Sometimes, his learning other tasks and skills yields coping strategies that assist in working around a disability. Examples:

• A student with a math disability can learn to use a calculator, and be allowed to use it in class. If your student does not have a disability, he may use one at home as an investigative tool.
• A student with a writing disability learns to ask a teacher or teacher’s aide for help with writing. Or this student uses a computer keyboard, a voice recognition program, or learns to write in text on a hand-held device.  
• Always be aware that there are options. Keep searching for ways to help your child that might work better for the time being.

3rd - How do you connect the dots?

• - exercise – including different kinds of movements like tumbling
• - sleep – A weary mind does not learn or remember, and mental connections form while sleeping  
• - art, music, social interaction, puzzles, and anything but television. 
• - work on skills using the 5 senses 

 
4th – Celebrate your achievements: When you meet a goal, whether it is educational success or simply reaching the time goal for your study period, then celebrate. Be happy! That was a lot of work for both you and your student, so you should both feel good about it.

5th – Your student may have high aptitude and interest in some areas, but have less in others. Remember that schools thought Albert Einstein was retarded because he was interested  only in mathematics and science. Read this interesting blog note: http://apieceofmymind-sarv.blogspot.com/2007/03/albert-einstein-failure.html

6th – Always remember that, just because your student didn’t get it right today, it doesn’t mean he or she won’t do it tomorrow. You may often have to remind your student of this too. Thomas Edison failed over 6000 times before he invented the light bulb. He said “I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.”

Towards Understanding Students with Disabilities and Their Families

Watching certain movies has really helped me understand some of the challenges that students with disabilities and their families face.

On the average, one out of every 110 students may have an autism spectrum diagnosis. If your school (or school district) has 650 students per grade level, the likelihood is that will be 6 students on the autism spectrum per grade level.

There are many movies about people with disabilities. Here I have included 3 with a short description and links.

Temple Grandin’s inspirational movie uses the visual analogy of life as a series of doors, each of which she must go through to reach the next level of success. She proves to be so determined to get through those doors. It is one of the images that helps her overcome her fear of new things. The young Temple continuously wows teachers and students with her many gifts. The movie sneaks in details such as her ability to focus on a task, like writing an entire Master’s Thesis in less than a week. She works hard, in spite of the opposition, to change to world, and demonstrates that, because of autism (which often inhibits the ability to – consciously or subconsciously – ignore ‘background’ sensory input, such as cows’ constant mooing), she can perceive things other people simply don’t see or hear. February 6th at 8:00 pm on HBO. See her webpage: http://www.grandin.com/

I found the movie Adam to be very encouraging. Adam in an autistic man whose father and sole caregiver dies. Before his death, Adam worked for his father’s company designing toys, but soon finds himself jobless. As a hard-working and focused individual, he applied for 82 jobs in one day. He practiced and practiced in order to be able to perform job interviews. If he can do it, I can do it. http://www.foxsearchlight.com/adam/

“I Am Sam” is about a man with disabilities who lives in an assisted living situation and has nights out with the guys. After his girlfriend has a baby, she abandons him with a child. He loves the child so much and is determined to be a good father to her in spite of his own learning challenges. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0277027/


Least Restrictive Environment
The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) of 2004 officially requires that by law students with disabilities be placed in the least restrictive environment possible. Studies show that integrating students actually raises test scores for all students. Advanced students learn more by teaching other students. Lower students learn from being with advanced students.

People with disabilities are like all people in that we have strengths and weaknesses. Some strengths and weaknesses can be extraordinary on both counts. As educators, we have to remember to see the strengths.